Weddings are the perfect chance to bring all of your friends and family together to celebrate the love you have for your new husband or wife. However, planning a wedding can be pretty stressful – especially when the guest list is involved. You don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings by not inviting them, and then you have to think about the younger generation. There are many couples who choose to plan an adults-only wedding, but there are others who decide that their kids should be a part of their big day.
What Is A Wedding Nanny?
In short, a wedding nanny is someone who is hired to look after children during the wedding ceremony and the wedding reception. They set up their very own creche-like room a short way away from the adults so that the children can still have fun, while their parents are just in the next room. These nannies are becoming more and more popular across the globe, but is it okay to do?
The Pros Of A Wedding Nanny
On your wedding day, you want the whole thing to be stress-free, and knowing that the younger guests are looked after can provide you with a huge sense of relief. They are still part of the wedding, but they also get the chance to make their own fun away from the adult conversation. This can also help you in terms of your guest list, as many guests often turn down RSVP’s because they cannot get a childminder or babysitter to look after their kids. By providing them with one, you can ensure that everyone you love will be able to attend.
The Cons Of A Wedding Nanny
However, many people feel as though a wedding nanny excludes the younger generation from the big day. Parents may want to share the moment with their kids, and taking them away from the main event seems rather harsh. As if that wasn’t enough, many parents feel as though they are being forced to stay separate from their kids. Many parents relish the free time they have with their children and would love to enjoy their company during this time.
At the end of the day, whether you use a wedding nanny or not is completely down to you.
When Tomas Valero noticed that his daughter was crying after school every day, he realized that something was wrong. When he found out what was happening, it shocked him to his core…
Tomas’ daughter had just enrolled at Pine Grove Elementary School where she was starting kindergarten. Up until that point, Tomas had never noticed anything out of the ordinary about his daughter. She was a healthy young child who made friends easily and had a creative flair to her. However, soon after starting at the school, her attitude changed and she started becoming more and more emotional. Tomas was certain that it had something to do with the school she was in…
He Took Matters Into His Own Hands
Starting school can be tough for children. It’s a huge adjustment and without the correct support systems, a child can struggle. Having a rude teacher can make the process even more difficult. When Tomas noticed that his daughter was struggling with something at school, he decided to do some investigating…
His Child Was Worried
Every parent wants nothing but the best for their children and it’s natural for a parent to become concerned when their child is in pain. Tomas realized that his daughter was becoming more and more emotional after starting at her new school. At first, he just chalked it up to nerves, but as her crying and desire to avoid school became worse, Tomas realized that there was something else happening here. He needed to get to the root of the problem…
As the days turned into months, it had become apparent that all the joy and excitement he knew his daughter for had left her. She was getting more and more scared with every passing day and would constantly protest about going to school. Tomas had spoken to her about the issue many times before, but she was always reluctant to tell the truth. However, it was clear that something had to be done, or his daughter would get worse and worse…
A Good Student
Up until that point, Tomas’ daughter had been a good student. Her grades were good and the reports that she got from her teacher were often positive. However, after a few months of being at school, her grades had started dropping and she managed to find herself getting emotional every day after school and sometimes even before leaving. Tomas couldn’t bear to watch his daughter become like this. As a father, he felt powerless to help…
A Concerned Father
Any parent would be worried about their child’s well-being, especially if they’re constantly sad all the time. Tomas was becoming more and more concerned. The more he tried to find out what his daughter was going through, the more she shrank away. Tomas figured that she was either being bullied by her fellow classmates – or even worse, by a teacher. Their home life was pretty stable and happy, so he realized that it had to be an external issue.
The Importance Of Patience
In life, it’s incredibly important to practice patience. It’s really one of the most important virtues that we can learn – albeit a difficult one to truly understand. This is most true in the field of education – especially when dealing with young children. While anyone who has spent any time with children at all will know that they can be a challenge to handle, stepping into that role means that you have to learn patience.
Tomas’ daughter was only in her childhood years and that meant that she was still in her developing years. These are some of the most important times in our lives and the things that happen to us during these years will often shape the kind of people that we grow into later in life. Developing a strong sense of self and nurturing the best in children is important. One impatient teacher can have negative effects on a child for the rest of their lives…
Devising A Plan
Being a resourceful person, Tomas decided that he needed to find out exactly what was happening to his daughter on a daily basis. There was no way for him to be certain because she was too shy and young to explain what was happening to her. As a father, he couldn’t just sit back and watch his poor child become sadder and sadder with every passing day. He finally decided that listening in would be a good idea.
A Hidden Device
When we say ‘listening in’, we mean that Tomas had decided to plant a small hearing device in his daughter’s hair bun. If he could listen in over the course of a regular day at school, there would be a better chance of understanding what was happening to her. While he realized that this was a bit drastic, he wanted to get to the bottom of what was happening in class and have proof at the same time.
Tomas was eager to get the results back from his daughter’s day at school. When he started listening through the recording, he was astounded by what he heard. It seemed as though his daughter’s teacher was being unnecessarily mean to her students. As Tomas listened closely to the recording, he realized that this teacher was the source of the problems. While he was angered by what he heard, he was grateful that he had got to the source of the problem. He had to take action…
It was clear that the teacher was taking advantage of her power . Tomas found it difficult to accept that someone who was supposed to take care of children could be so callous! As he listened to the recording, he realized that it was not exactly what the teacher was saying that was so offensive – it was the tone in which she was saying it. More often than not, she could be heard screaming at the children over the smallest things. Tomas needed to take action!
Raising A Complaint
Feeling dissatisfied with the kind of teacher trouble that he was dealing with, Tomas figured that it would be best for him to take the issue to the public school district. When something like this happens to your child, it’s often easier to address someone who has the power to handle these kinds of situations. So, rather than addressing the teacher directly, Tomas figured he would go to the school board for the entire state as this needed to be addressed seriously.
A Poor Response
Despite having a perfectly valid reason to complain, as well as the proof he needed to make his case, Tomas found little help from the school district. He was disappointed with the kind of response that he had received and felt that they were doing too little to help deal with the teacher’s poor attitude. While they did state that she had been disciplined for her actions, the truth was that Tomas wanted more. He couldn’t think of her ruining more children’s lives every day…
Making A Point
Tomas wasn’t happy with the response he had gotten from the school. The teacher was still teaching his daughter’s class and Tomas felt like he needed retribution. Pretty soon, he had taken it upon himself to protest the decision to keep Duncan in as a kindergarten teacher. While the school had offered to let his daughter move to another teacher, Tomas was worried about all the other children. So, being a concerned parent, he rallied his friends and they took to the streets to protest…
Standing Up For His Daughter
As a father, Tomas needed to stand up for his daughter. He was hurt that the school didn’t really offer much in terms of change or support. This was an issue that would likely affect hundreds of children’s lives. The longer Duncan was a kindergarten teacher, the more children her anger would affect. Despite his and other parents’ protests, it seemed as though the change they wanted was not coming. But Tomas would not let up…
Starting A Petition
Pretty soon, word of what had happened to Tomas’ daughter, and all the other kids in the class had spread. The time for action was here and despite his early attempts, Tomas didn’t receive much in terms of support. However, after creating a petition on the website Change.org, Tomas was surprised to find that the general public had decided to rally around his daughter’s cause. Pretty soon, he had over 2,000 signatures calling for Duncan’s dismissal!
Spreading The News
Even more surprising to Duncan was that pretty soon he had found himself being swept up in a media frenzy. Local news channels had heard about what was happening at Pine Grove and were impressed by Tomas’s determination as a father. Pretty soon, his story had swept across the nation. This meant that even if he could not have Duncan removed from class, people would know what she was doing and that she was in the wrong.
The problem with this kind of treatment is that a teacher can have lasting effects on a child for the rest of their lives. Any fears or habits they pick up as a result of their exposure to a teacher like this will likely stay with them for the rest of their lives. If Tomas had not noticed his daughter’s change in attitude, he never would have realized how serious this issue was. It affected more than only his child.
A Good Mentor
Any parent knows being a good mentor is a challenge. It often means that you have to criticize and scrutinize your own actions before you can do anything else. This isn’t an easy task, as you can imagine, but an important one nonetheless. However, Tomas had also learned that even though he had tried his best to be a good mentor, there were some things that were out of his hands. Taking action and responsibility for the well-being of his daughter was important.
The Responsibility Of A Teacher
A teacher’s responsibility goes so much further than simply teaching children a curriculum. They hold their minds and imaginations in their hands – things that will often have a huge impact on their lives as they grow up. Therefore, a teacher has a responsibility to ensure that they also inspire children. Using abusive language and asserting control through fear only stifles a child’s progress and does not set them up for a healthy life thereafter. Knowing this, Tomas tried his best to fix the situation. But did it work?
Hoping For Change
While Duncan is still teaching at the school, the truth is that she has had to accept that she was being way too harsh towards her class of children. While Tomas still hopes for the changes that he wants, he knows that making his point was a good idea. The lives of his own children and others’ were at stake simply because of one teacher’s short temper. He had learned that taking action was the only way he would get the change he wanted…
A Stronger Family
While the ordeal has been a tough one for Tomas and his daughter, Tomas does admit that ultimately it has made them stronger together as a family. He could only have realized what his daughter was going through if he took the initiative to find out. At the moment, his daughter is learning under a different teacher and Tomas has learned to take note when she’s not feeling well. He will be a better father as a result of this