You might have written a list of everything you want to happen on your wedding day, but what about the things that you need to avoid? That’s right; there are some things that you don’t want to do on your wedding day.
Worry About Weather
The weather is like many things in life – out of our control. Sure, we can plan the perfect summer wedding only to have it rain all day, but who really cares? They say that rain is supposed to be lucky and who knows, it could lead to some incredible photo ops.
Start New Projects
Many of us like to DIY many aspects of our wedding. However, those projects can often last a little longer than we imagined. If you haven’t had time to fold those napkins or finish the favors, then it’s best to forget them. Your wedding day is for relaxing and sharing your love, not starting a new project.
Wear New Shoes
Your outfits are sorted, and they’re all laid out. That’s perfect! However, you might want to try breaking in your shoes a few weeks before the wedding if you’re going to avoid any blisters or rubbing on the day. Breaking in new shoes is never fun. Why let painful feet distract you from the day?
Get An Intense Treatment
Perhaps you want to fully relax before your wedding? It might be best to book that last-minute eyebrow wax or that deep tissue massage for a few days before the ceremony. After all, sporting the waxed-face look or feeling sore from a massage might put a little dampener on the day.
It can be easy to skip out on meals as the nerves take over, but you might start to feel the effects later in the day. Sometimes, all we need is a light bite to eat and some water to help us get our appetite back for our wedding breakfast.
Many couples say their wedding day passes in a flash. However, focusing on your big moment and forgetting all the things not to do on your wedding day should help the day feel like a moment that will last a lifetime – with memories to match.
Kendra Wilkinson has been on our screens for quite some time. We saw the blonde beauty marry a professional footballer, and then watched as their marriage fell apart. However, despite their highly publicized relationship, these two still manage to co-parent their adorable kids.
Where Did it All Begin?
Before we get into the details of Kendra and Hank’s co-parenting relationship, let’s go back to the beginning. Kendra Wilkinson was born in San Diego to former professional cheerleader Patti, and biotech businessman Eric. The star’s parents split up when she was eight, and she grew up estranged from her multi-millionaire father.
A Softball Star
At school, Kendra Wilkinson played on the softball team. Interestingly, the model’s high school was the inspiration for ’80s romcom Fast Times at Ridgemont High. When she left high school, Kendra worked for a short time as an assistant in a dentist’s office.
Thanks to her stunning good looks, Kendra wound up with several modeling jobs at this point. The young beauty would pose for glamor shots, and attend events dressed to the nines (or wearing very little).
From High School to Hugh Hefner
Kendra Wilkinson was working as a painted girl at the Playboy Mansion when she first met famed publisher Hugh Hefner. It was the Playboy founder’s 78th birthday party, and he’d already spotted Kendra in a photoshoot.
Shortly after Hugh and Kendra were first introduced, Hefner invited the young model to live with him at the Mansion. Reflecting on the decision years later, Wilkinson has said, “I was like, ‘hell yeah, I’m here,’ […] I knew nothing about Playboy, I’d just graduated high school.”
The Girls Next Door
The year after she met Hugh Hefner, Kendra Wilkinson found herself on her first-ever reality TV show. The series was initially supposed to follow Hugh Hefner’s life, but was eventually changed to focus on his multiple live-in girlfriends.
Looking back on the series, Kendra has commented, “On camera, you saw us together and it was the trio. But off-camera, we would just *POOF* disappear into our own little worlds. We just never bonded, we were not friends.”
The Sports-Loving Stunner
Interestingly, if she hadn’t made a career on reality TV, Kendra Wilkinson wanted to be a sports announcer. Eventually, the star would land a regular writing gig for the Philadelphia Eagles. This was the team her mom used to cheer for, and the team ex-husband Hank played for.
However, on reality TV, Kendra was an undeniable hit. Her castmates on The Girls Next Door got irritated with the amount of screen time she was getting, and everyone saw she was the breakout star.
Who Is Hank Baskett?
Now, before we get into the nitty-gritty of Kendra and Hank’s relationship, let’s get properly acquainted with Hank Baskett. The athlete was born in New Mexico to social service worker Henry, and financial officer Judy. He attended the University of New Mexico, and played football for the school.
Eventually, Hank Baskett was the wide receiver for NFL teams the Minnesota Vikings, Philadelphia Eagles, and Indianapolis Colts. The professional football player officially retired from his sport in 2011.
She Said Yes!
Kendra Wilkinson and Hank Baskett only dated for six months before getting engaged. Apparently, the pair met while on the golf course, and they must have had instant chemistry. Hank proposed to Kendra at the Space Needle in Seattle in 2008.
At first, Kendra denied the rumors she was engaged, but eventually admitted to being in a relationship when she spoke with Chelsea Handler on her show. Hank proposed with a two-carat princess cut diamond. Of course, she said yes!
Kendra, Reality TV Star
When Kendra met her future husband, it was obviously time for her to move out of the Playboy Mansion. But, why make such a dramatic life change without recording it for reality TV? That’s right — the reality breakout star was getting her own spin-off, simply named Kendra.
The first season of Kendra followed the celeb as she lived by herself for the first time in her life. Viewers watched the star plan her wedding to Hank, dealing with all the usual drama.
A Wedding at the Mansion
When Hugh Hefner’s former girlfriends get married, it only makes sense that they tie the knot at the Mansion. To be honest, we find that dynamic pretty strange, but we are dealing with some larger-than-life characters here.
Kendra Wilkinson and Hank Baskett got married in 2009 in front of family and reality TV co-stars. The former Playmate called her husband “the man of my dreams,” saying “he’s one in a million,” and “I’m so lucky.”
Hank and Kendra’s Kids
Altogether, Hank Baskett and Kendra Wilkinson have two children. The couple welcomed their first child, son Henry Randall “Hank” Baskett IV in 2009, not long after they were married.
Years later, in 2013, Kendra Wilkinson and Hank Baskett announced they were expecting their second child. Little Alijah Mary Baskett was born in 2014, making it a family of four. Initially, it was rumored that Hugh Hefner would be little Hank’s godparent, but alas it wasn’t to be.
Record-Breaking Reality TV
Considering her popularity on Girls Next Door, perhaps it should be no surprise that Kendra’s self-named reality series was a hit. The show premiered in 2009 and broke records on E! In fact, the series was the highest-rated reality premiere since The Anna Nicole Show in 2002.
In total, Kendra ran for three seasons between 2007 and 2011. The show focused on the star’s daily life — including her relationships with her family, friends, and her work opportunities. The first season averaged 2.6 million viewers.
Struggling With New Motherhood
After giving birth to baby Hank, Kendra Wilkinson struggled with post-partum depression. In an interview, she revealed, “After giving birth, I never brushed my hair, my teeth, or took a shower. I looked in the mirror one day and was really depressed.”
During this difficult time, Kendra was feeling isolated living in Indianapolis. The star moved there to be with her husband, but wasn’t used to the pressures of motherhood and the loneliness of having no friends nearby.
I Was in a Black Hole
Writing in her 2011 memoir, Kendra reveals that she struggled with post-partum depression for two years. Of course, adjusting to major life changes in front of a reality TV crew isn’t exactly an easy task. Viewers watched as the new mom struggled with her radically different life, far from the Playboy Mansion.
Writing in her memoir, Kendra said, “I felt devastated, helpless — like I was in a black hole.” At one point, she states that she would hide in a closet to “scream and cry.”
Kendra, the E! True Hollywood Story
Considering her glamorous and unusual life story, it only makes sense that Kendra Wilkinson was the subject of her own E! True Hollywood Story episode. The series started back in 1996 and explores the lives of all sorts of celebrities.
Indeed, many Playboy adjacent figures have been featured — including Pamela Anderson, Carmen Electra, and Hugh Hefner himself. Also around this time, a leaked and private video of Kendra as a teenager was circulated. Naturally, the star threatened to sue.
Kendra on Top
Kendra Wilkinson had been with the E! network since she first appeared on reality TV. However, when the network got a new president, they promised to “get rid of the more Playboy trashy elements” in their programming. This comment was made during the final season of Kendra, and shortly after that, the star and E! parted ways.
In 2011, Kendra and family signed up to Kendra on Top with WE TV. The first series premiered in 2012, and the final one in 2017.
2013: A Wild Year
In the second season of Kendra on Top, viewers get a sense of just how wild Kendra Wilkinson’s life is. In just one year, the star appeared on multiple shows, got into a car accident, suffered a stroke, and announced her pregnancy.
In 2013, Kendra swapped lives with fellow reality star Kate Gosselin for an episode of Celebrity Wife Swap. Several months later, she crashed on a California freeway, which led to a minor hemorrhagic stroke. And all this with camera crews present!
“Faking” a Marriage Crisis
The cameras always present in Kendra Wilkinson’s life did capture the state of the star’s marriage. In fact, viewers even accused the famous couple of manufacturing material to fake a marriage crisis for ratings. Understandably, this was very upsetting to Kendra.
In an Instagram post, the star wrote, “1. how do u fake marital problems? makes absolutely no sense. 2. Yes, we are having issues.” She added, “I’ve been in a lot of therapy lately n hope all gets resolved for me, Hank, kids, and even for TV.”
Sleeping in Separate Rooms
Kendra Wilkinson has since revealed that she and then-husband Hank Baskett slept in separate bedrooms. She explained, “There was no way I could talk about what I was feeling because I didn’t know what it was, so we just had to stay apart.”
Sadly, post-partum depression can make women feel isolated, scared, and like they’ve failed at their most important job. Without communicating with somebody about how they’re feeling, these feelings are only likely to intensify.
Tomorrow Is a New Day
At times, Kendra Wilkinson has reached out via Instagram when she’s not in a good place. In a series of posts, the reality TV star said, “Pray for Kdub lmao. Life isn’t making any sense to me right now.” In another post, she wrote, “I try to so hard to be good but never good enough. Therapy is for the birds.”
The star expressed her frustration with being constantly judged, saying, “No matter what…I am labeled. Playboy party girl. Bad mom. D-list celebrity. Crazy. Always wrong.”
Baby Hank Saved Me
Reflecting on her depression in later years, Kendra has credited her son for helping her to recover. She remembered, “Baby Hank really made me stop, step back, and realize, ‘If I don’t stop acting like this, he’s going to pick up on it.'” The star got therapy, and started working on herself.
Of course, the leaked video of a teenage Kendra didn’t help her mental health. She asked, “It broke my heart because how can you do that when I have a baby?”
Hank Baskett’s Dark Spiral
By 2010, Hank Baskett’s professional football career was coming to a close. The star resigned with the Eagles, was released, signed with the Minnesota Vikings, and was released. Years later, the athlete let fans in on his struggles during this dark time.
In 2015, Baskett looked back, saying, “The stress and depression were eating away at me. I fell into what happens to a lot of professional athletes who change careers. It hit me, and it hit hard.”
The Cheating Scandal
In the fourth season of Kendra on Top, the Baskett family unit is rocked by a cheating scandal. Reports claimed that Hank had had an affair with model Ava Sabrina London. Even worse, it was while Kendra was pregnant with the couple’s second child.
These allegations hit the headlines just months after baby Alijah was born. It was rumored that a devastated Kendra flushed her wedding ring down the toilet and told her cheating spouse to get out.
Hank Baskett’s Identity Crisis
Looking at the bad parts of their marriage, Kendra has now realized that Hank was having an identity crisis.
She explained, “He’s played football his whole life. I’ve only known Hank as a football player and I loved that about him […] And then football ended, here we are, we have a kid and the roles reversed. I became the breadwinner, he became more at home with little Hank, and I think that put a lot of stress onto him.”
Giving it a Go
At the time of the cheating scandal, Kendra Wilkinson emerged claiming she would forgive her husband. She said, “I cannot shut this man down. I’m willing to spend the rest of my life trying to figure this out rather than spend one night single.”
The star was cautiously optimistic about the future of the relationship, saying, “I believe we’re on the road to being better than ever. Sometimes you need a shake-up to get to a place you’ve never been before.”
Marriage Boot Camp: Reality Stars
With a successful reality TV career under her belt, it only made sense for Kendra Wilkinson to go there for marriage help. Kendra and Hank both signed up to VH1’s Marriage Boot Camp: Reality Stars.
Kendra explained the thinking behind their decision — “We’re going through a huge marital crisis at the time. It has four amazing therapists that are willing to help us for two weeks, away from social media, away from TV, away from the world and we’re in. I mean come on.”
I Believe Hank
In the end, Kendra Wilkinson didn’t end her marriage to Hank Baskett over the cheating scandal. The reality star took her husband back, but said it would take a “lifetime” to rebuild their trust.
She said, “All I can say is I believe Hank. I love Hank. And he’s proven to me that he’s worth forgiving and fighting for.” On his part, Hank Bassett has always denied being unfaithful. He did admit to being selfish, and Kendra called him “very gullible and naïve.”
Kendra Plays Around
Behind closed doors, we suspect Kendra Wilkinson and husband Hank Baskett had a bit of an arrangement. In 2016, Hank revealed that had encouraged his wife to “go play around” following his cheating allegations.
Indeed, Kendra was snapped kissing her I’m a Celebrity Get Me Out of Here UK co-star, English former soccer player Jimmy Bullard. Reports claimed that Kendra would never get over her husband’s affair, and that she was still in the marriage for the sake of the kids.
Holly Versus Kendra
As well as dealing with her marriage troubles, post-partum depression, and a stroke, Kendra Wilkinson has also been involved in some high-profile beef. The star’s former Girls Next Door castmate Holly Madison released a memoir about their time at the Mansion, and called Kendra “the fakest person I’ve ever met.” Burn!
Kendra shot back with her own interpretation, saying that Holly had always wanted to have children with Hef as a way of inheriting part of his fortune.
Falling Out With Patti
Another personal relationship that went south for reality star Kendra Wilkinson is the one with her mom, Patti. Season six of reality series Kendra on Top showed the pair’s issues, which stemmed from Patti’s problems with her daughter’s husband, Hank.
On the show, Patti explained that she found the professional athlete controlling and felt that he prioritized his own career. In response, Kendra explained that her mom’s public statements were “like a straight-up knife in the back.”
Happy Wedding Anniversary
Seven years after their Space Needle wedding, Kendra and Hank celebrated their anniversary. In a 2016 Instagram post, Kendra wrote, “I’m so proud of us and what we stand for. Our kids will believe in love and forgiveness because of us showing them it’s possible.”
In a post for Kendra’s birthday, Hank shared snaps from the couple’s lake trip. He wrote, “The moments two people in love are able to share when they truly don’t have a care in the world are priceless.”
Hank the Proud Parent
Hank Baskett is a fan of gushing Instagram posts, especially when it comes to his kids. In 2016, the former NFL player posted a snap of himself and son Hank at his birthday party.
The star’s caption read, “As a parent, your child’s birthday party can be one of the most stressful days BUT when they have a never-ending smile and keep coming up saying it’s the best day ever, you realize just how much every bit of the stress is worth it!”
I Have to Get Strong
By 2018, there were signs that Kendra and Hank’s marriage was at its breaking point. The reality star posted a teary Instagram video where she said, “10 years. I did everything I could. It wasn’t good enough. I will always love him. My heart will always remain open for him. I believed in forever, I really did. Guess it’s just not meant to be. I’m so scared but I have to get strong for my kids. I will.”
Alongside a wedding snap, Kendra wrote “I believed.”
Kendra and Hank Say Goodbye
Despite her fears of being single, and her attempts to make it work, Kendra Wilkinson filed for divorce from Hank Baskett in 2018. She also changed back to her maiden name, no longer a Baskett. Hank filed on the same day, with both parties claiming irreconcilable differences.
In total, Hank and Kendra were together for nine years of marriage. At the time, the reality star said that she wanted to focus on herself, her health, and her children.
Announcing the Split
As celebrities do, Kendra and Hank announced their split officially on Instagram. Kendra said, “We are both amazing parents and our kids will be happy and never know the difference other than seeing mama smile.”
She continued, “Sometimes love looks funny. We are told to make sacrifices in life if it’s true love well in this case it’s me. I want to see happy Hank again. I miss that. Marriage was just a piece of paper and a piece of jewelry, but our hearts will always be real.”
Minimizing Bumps in the Road
When Hank and Kendra filed for divorce, they both requested joint legal and physical custody of their kids. The stars also decided to keep their individual properties and divide their assets equally. All of this makes co-parenting together a little bit easier.
Kendra has explained that she likes to minimize any bumps in the road for her children. She has said that she and Hank deal with issues in another room, but that she is also upfront with her kids.
Get Your Heads Checked
Over the years, Kendra Wilkinson has been repeatedly accused of living her life for the media. This seems like exactly what a reality star would do, so we don’t really understand that criticism. Of course, a life in the spotlight also means dealing with a whole lot of haters.
The star has addressed her detractors directly, saying, “You better get your heads checked because your assumptions based on pictures and clips of shows make u straight up delusional.” You tell them, Kendra!
Quality Time in Quarantine
Parents all over the world were faced with a unique situation in 2020. When the world went into lockdown, Kendra Wilkinson cozied up with her kids. She said the experience made her feel stronger, and reiterated that she doesn’t have household staff.
She said, “I am not lying when it is all me. I am doing it all. I think it shows them that their mom is strong and can do it all. I also think it’s a great way to have them pitch in and help”
Time Heals All
It’s been several years now since Kendra and Hank ended their marriage, but the pair have maintained an amicable relationship. At the launch for a kid’s skincare line, Kendra commented that, “It is stable,” saying the former couple was in a better place and that “time heals all.”
Kendra also has a strong relationship with her two kids. She has described Hank as “a good kid,” and Alijah as “tough […] exactly like me.” It looks like the Wilkinson-Basketts are doing ok!
Back in the Light
Reports claim that Kendra and Hank switch off their kids from week to week. The couple has been spotted at birthday parties and sports games with their kids, so we assume things are all good. Kendra has even described her ex as “still the best father in the world,”
As for her mental health, Kendra revealed, “The depression is gone finally,” The reality star claimed to be “back in the light” and enjoying time with her kids.
Current Status: Single Mama
After the end of her marriage, Kendra Wilkinson wasn’t in the mood to date. Come on — the woman has two small kids to look after! The reality star posted a snap of her with her kids captioned, “Current status: SINGLE MAMA! No man!! Explored a little but nothing yet. Til then gonna keep working on myself and being the best mom and golfer ever.”
While Kendra used to say that she would consider getting back with ex-hubby Hank, she has since said she would never.
Kendra the Real Estate Agent
While she was in quarantine with her kids, Kendra Wilkinson decided to switch careers entirely. Well…almost. The star spent lockdown studying for her real estate exam, and passed just weeks after her 35th birthday.
When the reality star shared her news online, she thanked her kids for supporting her. About the test, she said, “Was so nervous I couldn’t even sleep one minute but I did it and now I can breathe and celebrate my hard work.”
The Celebrity Thing Has Not Helped
You might think that being a celebrity would help Kendra Wilkinson’s real estate career. In fact, she claimed that it hasn’t worked in her favor at all. Kendra has said that she doesn’t feel like a celebrity, and actually sees herself as a single mom starting a new career.
She said, “Breaking into the real estate business is a different ballgame, and I think it’s going to really take a lot of trust and making sure that people trust me.”
Kendra Sells Hollywood
Now, did you really think Kendra Wilkinson would just become a real estate agent and that’s it? Nope! The star will be making her reality TV return on new series Kendra Sells Hollywood. She’s gone from a girl in a mansion, to a girl selling mansions.
Kendra’s new real estate home is The Agency, owned by Kyle Richard’s husband Mauricio Umansky. In her announcement, Kendra said, “One thing led to another and I’m back on TV, documenting this part of my journey.”
The Highlight of My Entire Life
You would think that the highlight of Kendra Wilkinson’s life might be the birth of her kids, or a raving party at the Playboy mansion. You might be surprised to learn, then, that it’s actually her office cubicle. Yep, you read that right.
Despite having worked on movie sets, Kendra claimed that her new office cubicle with her name on it was, “Honest to G-d, right now in this point in my life, the highlight of my entire life.”
Reflecting on Reality TV
In 2021, Kendra appeared on For Real: The Story of Reality TV to talk about her time in the genre. The star joined other famous reality fixtures as they delved into behind-the-scenes info and reflected on their wild lives.
Speaking to Andy Cohen, Kendra said that her own series started out as a comedy but then “reality happened.” She commented, “I’m very open and unfiltered, which is good for TV, but it definitely caused a lot of heartache and a lot of problems.”
What’s Next for Kendra and Hank?
Reports vary on the current relationship between Kendra Wilkinson and Hank Baskett. Some outlets noticed that the reality star didn’t wish her former husband a Happy Father’s Day, assuming that it was a snub. On the day, Kendra did publicly wish her friend a Happy Birthday, leaving onlookers guessing about her situation with Hank.
While Kendra and Hank have both briefly dated other people since their marriage ended, neither are in publicly confirmed relationships. We’ll have to wait and see!