Wedding preparation can be extremely stressful, and during this time you would only like to be a supportive friend to the bride-to-be – so don’t send her these texts.
1. Stop Stressing
Has this phrase ever helped anyone who is stressing? No. Because that’s not how it works. Planning a wedding can be a very intense and grueling process, and feeling overwhelmed and anxious is completely normal. If you genuinely want to be helpful and supportive, recognize that the bride-to-be may need an outlet, and isn’t necessarily expecting you to offer advice. Try to be understanding, even if you can’t personally grasp where she’s coming from.
2. It’s not my style, but if you like it . . .
The truth is, this isn’t your wedding and imposing your own opinions at this point is unnecessary and will only make the bride-to-be doubt herself at an already stressful time. The bride-to-be may want some reassurance at times, but it would be wise to be gentle with your responses and remind her that it’s her special day.
3. You’re eating pizza? Aren’t you afraid you won’t fit into your dress?
This is a huge no-no. Of course, in any event, one shouldn’t preach to someone about weight or size, but during this time the bride-to-be is under considerable stress. If you close to the bride-to-be want to be supportive, there are gentler ways to remind her of her plans.
4. ”What’s the rush?”
That’s like saying, “I do not approve of your union.” It is essential to remember that you are not the one getting married to either of these people, so there’s no need to express your concerns. The time for that would have been long before the engagement, and only if you are close enough to the bride-to-be. Once wedding plans are underway, you could reason that, for better or worse, the couple has thought it through. So while you may feel they’re rushing into it, to say so at this point will do no good.