How To Approach The Matter When You Don’t Want Your Parents At Your Wedding

When imagining your wedding at a younger age, you probably expect to have your father walk you down the aisle, your mother to help you with the planning, and, of course, to have them as the first two guests on your guest list. However, we don’t live in a perfect world, and some of us don’t have the best relationship with our parents by the time our wedding rolls around.

In fact, when it comes to the guest list, some old wounds may be brought up, and it may make you wonder whether you want your mother and father’s name on there. In order to not have any regrets later on in life, here is a list of things you can do to make sure you are making the right choice.


Talk It Over With Your Fiancé

After all, this wedding is about both of you and the people you want to invite to your special day. Of all people, you want your fiancé to support the decision you make so it is important to keep communication open with them. Ask for their opinion and then assess whether you need more time to think about this, or whether you’re ready to reach out to your parents.


Make a Pro-Con List

This list is vital because it can help you pin down all the reasons why you don’t want to invite your parents. Once you see those reasonings, you can then imagine how you will feel if they are not with you on your wedding day. Write more about if you will have any regrets or if you think it is not worth them coming. This way you will be able to see if there are enough reasons for your final answer.


Decide if You Want to Mend the Relationship

If you have a troubled relationship with your parents, first and foremost decide if you even want to fix it before your wedding. If you do, it may be worth a try, and then you can think of the best way to get in contact with them.