There’s a lot more to the perfect wedding venue than just the aesthetics (though good looks are a huge bonus). All sorts of important details must be attended to by the married-to-be couples before they sign on the dotted line.

Here’s more on the matter:

Guest Count

For those who are planning to have a small wedding, they have to make sure the wedding venue they have chosen allows for a small guest count, so they don’t end up paying extra for non-existent guests. On the flip side, couples planning to have a giant wedding, need to make sure their dream venue can hold all their friends and family. Many venues have a 20% admin fee and a small percentage of state tax. This is good to remember.

What’s Included?

This question is best to ask before the pricey deposit is paid. Thus, couples will know if they’ll have to spend extra on making sure their guests have cutlery and a place to sit.

Vendors

Ask the venue about vendors such as caterers, DJs/bands, photographers, and tent rentals. Some venues will require couples to use their specific vendors, and others will be open to accommodate the choice of the wedding couple.

Food & Drink

Find out what the venue does for food — do they offer passed hors d’oeuvres, a plated meal, a buffet, or a combination? Does the venue offer customizable bar packages, or are they set in stone? Do they do a cash bar, open bar, or consumption bar? Do they make cakes in-house or not?

Lodging/Accessibility

Couples need to ask their venue if they have on-site lodging either for the wedding party or the entire guest list, and if they don’t, they need to ask for their recommended hotels and bed and breakfasts. This is also the time to ask for any accessibility issues like the number of stairs, steep hills, or difficult acoustics. It’s good to keep the guests informed.

Parking

Many older wedding venues don’t have a lot of parking, so it is important to ask the venue if their parking space can handle all the guests and vendors or if there will be a need to provide a shuttle bus to the ceremony and party. Some wedding venues may require couples to hire a shuttle if they have a large guest count.

Floors

This is an important question, especially for those who are having any type of outdoor celebration. Couples need to let their guests know if they need to wear terrain-appropriate shoes for a beach or farm wedding or if they can whip out their stilettos for the hardwood floors of a hotel.

Sharing The Venue

Some venues cater for morning and evening weddings, some do one venue a day, and some only have one a weekend. Couples will want to ask if they will be sharing the venue so they can coordinate the timing with their vendors and guests.

Values And Ethics

It’s good to make sure the values and ethics of the couple align with the venue. If the wedding will be religious or culturally-specific, the venue needs to accommodate the couple’s needs.

Unfortunately, most women (all women?) know what it’s like to receive an offensive text from a man. From inappropriate requests to strange pick-up lines, these texts, DMs, and private messages are overflowing with cringe.

A recent TikTok trend has seen users posting terrible and offensive messages from men. This person was trying to arrange a date with a cute guy. Alas, he turned out to be a total jerk. This idiot accidentally responded to his date with a nasty message about her. At least this saved her some time.

Tinder has made the world of online dating much more streamlined. Before, people had to make profiles with actual information. Now, they just need a few lines of a bio. If even! Of course, swiping is also much more convenient than scrolling through profiles and thumbnail pictures.

But, what happens when you swipe by accident? Unfortunately for this person, this is what happens. Their Tinder match turned out to be not such a great match. Awkward!

Dating with kids can be pretty difficult. Obviously, you need to find someone who’s good with kids, and that knows how to act around them. That can be a pretty big ask, as we can tell from these messages.

This person was chatting to someone when they asked what it was like to have a miniature version of themselves. So far, so good. Then, they asked if they’d taught them any cool tricks. Clearly, this was not the correct course of action.

When you’re trying to woo someone via text, you really need to have your stuff together. This person thought they had nailed their opening interaction, but they made a pretty big error. While they used a sort of cute line, they messed up by using another girl’s name. Now, that is awkward.

We’re delighted that our girl spotted this error and called it out immediately. It’s not exactly flattering to be called someone else’s name and served their rejected pick-up line.

As always, it’s women of color who have to take the brunt of the worst and most offensive messages. There’s a whole bunch of cliché lines that are used, including this one – “speak to me in your native tongue.” Cringe!

It’s totally racist to assume that people of color don’t speak English, or speak another language. And it’s racist to request someone speak another language just for your own pleasure — especially when they’re a stranger.

When you first get chatting to someone, it’s hard to know what their vibe is. Maybe they’re laid back, maybe they’re uptight. Maybe they’re really funny, or maybe they’re super serious. The fun is finding out! Well, unless they make that difficult.

This man started off by telling someone that they were cute. So far, so good. However, when the cute person in question thanked them, they completely flew off the handle. Apparently saying thank you to a compliment is “ungrateful.”

Clearly, the world is full of Prince Charmings. These gentlemanly fellows are sure to treat women with courtesy, kindness, and respect. Ha-ha, we wish. In reality, the world is full of toads and trolls. No amount of kissing these folks will make them turn into Prince Charmings. It’s an important lesson for us all.

This message shows a chap telling a girl he likes her while he has a different girl in his bed. Worse still, he tells her this. Gross.

Wouldn’t it be easy if life had a pause button? We could hit that button and watch hours of reality TV without having to worry about work, deadlines, or any other type of responsibility. Or, we could hit pause and try all sorts of things out. Pause!

This texter seems to think that you can hit the pause button on a relationship. Here, they suggest pausing things with one partner so they can try out a different one. How flattering!

Next up on our charm tour is this horrible message. Here someone tells their date that they’ve gained a couple of pounds. It’s sad they feel they have to bring this up at all. After all, what’s a couple of pounds between friends? Nothing!

Anyway, this person also shares that they’re a little insecure about their weight gain. In fact, they even say they’re a little upset. So what does this guy do? Well, he cancels their hang-out. Super subtle dude.

People have pretty weird standards for their behavior. Take this guy for instance. They somehow admit to ruining someone’s life, but then also point out that they had fun. Eh, that’s not exactly a compelling argument to us. That better have been some extra-exciting fun for you to be able to ruin someone’s life.

Weirder still is how casual yet irritating this message is. How is this guy going to admit to ruining a life and then say “relax” in the same sentence?!

It’s no surprise that the messages on this list are lacking in manners. Really they’re lacking in any basic human decency. This exchange opens innocently enough, with two people comparing their ages. When the woman says she’s a little older, she immediately gets called a “milf.”

Look, think whatever you want to think of this term. But here’s a word of warning – don’t call a 25-year-old that and think she’s going to be happy about it.

Anyone who’s a twin has been asked this creepy question at least once. Chances are, they’ve been asked many more times than that. Thanks to lad movies and sexist clichés, lots of men get weird ideas in their heads about twins. As it turns out, twins were not put on this earth to please men.

As these messages show, twins (especially women) are often asked inappropriate questions about their siblings. There’s no wonder this woman was super offended by these messages.

Here’s a really great way to annoy a whole bunch of women at one time. This clever fellow decided to send a mass text to all of his online dating matches. However, instead of sending them separately, he copied them all into the same chat. Surely this is dating 101. Or texting 101.

As you would imagine, the women tagged in this chat weren’t exactly flattered. This is a wonderful way of losing 31 potential love interests all in one fell swoop.

We’ve seen terrible messages on this list so far. We’ve seen offensive messages. We’ve seen hateful messages. So yes, we know that this one isn’t exactly on the same level as some of the others. But also, what sort of psychopath would borrow a dog to get women’s attention and then admit it?

Surely, if you’re creepy enough to use a pup to hook up, you should at least maintain the illusion. Couldn’t this guy just get his own pupper?

Speaking of psychopaths, the guy from this message exchange seems fully deranged. Like really, we wonder if he’s actually trolling us because this response is so disproportionate.

This chat opens with a fairly innocent joke about an octopus. When the woman later asks about the punchline, the man completely loses it. Clearly, these guys aren’t a good match, but this reaction is way off the mark! We wonder if he retired this joke afterwards.

Some of the worst messages on this list include people that sent the wrong thing to the wrong person. In most cases, this means that they’re texting someone and then sending a nasty text about that person right to them. It’s brutal for everyone involved.

This person was texting a date while he arrived to pick her up. Then, he sent her a cruel assessment of her physical appearance right to her inbox. Oh, and he came off like a money sniffer at the same time.

It takes a lot to stand out on this list, but this person is so bad that they’ve managed it. This very offensive message is from a man to a woman, though they aren’t dating. The woman gets an invite to a pool party, which she isn’t exactly enthusiastic about.

Something tells us she knows this guy is a jerk already. Then, the invite comes with a side dish of pettiness, manipulation, and chauvinism. Thankfully, this gal knows better and tells him she won’t be attending.

To say this message is offensive is the very nicest thing you can say about it. Here we have a guy asking his partner why she isn’t annoyed that he doesn’t seem to actually like her. What is the correct answer to this question? Oh yeah – “it’s over”.

This guy really had the nerve to point out that he wasn’t excited to see his own love interest. Is this just a really lazy and mean way of breaking up with someone?

Honestly, part of us is somewhat amused by this exchange. Here we have a man very enthusiastically messaging someone else with some song lyrics. Clearly, this man thinks they’ve very cleverly found a song lyric with the other person’s name in it.

In reality, they have not. In this case, it looks like Michael Jackson’s “Smooth Criminal” didn’t exactly seal the deal. As it turns out, Anna is in fact a different name than Annie. Unfortunate really.

OK, these messages really are a whirlwind. Plus, they’re inappropriate and cringe. Three in one! This man wants to know why Sophie won’t give him a chance. The thing is, Sophie has already told him she’s focusing on herself right now.

The problem is that this guy doesn’t want to hear it. In fact, he has his own interpretation of what “focusing on myself” really means. All in all, he’s much more interested in Sophie’s thighs than in what she’s saying.

Aren’t pick-up lines just wonderful? Which woman doesn’t want to be hit on using some sort of pun? Better yet, which woman doesn’t want to be hit on using an inappropriate and creepy pun? Just the best!

This guy has decided to compare this woman to a parking ticket. Great idea, right? It’s all so they can make some lousy punchline about the woman being fine. Thankfully, our girl replied with a convenient pun of her own. You tell him.

We’ve seen one of these on our list already. But that doesn’t make it any less savage the second time around. This person got super liked on Tinder, all to find out they weren’t liked at all.

This is an incredibly harsh thing to say to someone, especially just based on their pictures! This person would have been better just quietly un-matching and going about their life. Or, they could have tried talking to someone who’s a little outside their usual type. Anything but this really.

In our next offensive set of messages from a man, someone demands a selfie and then has a tantrum. As we can see, this woman has already said that she isn’t going to send a selfie. Despite this, her texting partner is asking her for specific reasons why not.

That’s a red flag. When this woman gives a totally reasonable explanation for not wanting to send a picture of her face, things get even worse. That’s a whole bunch of red flags!

Clearly, lots of people act differently on the internet than they do in real life. We would like to think that in real life, people wouldn’t walk around criticizing other people’s appearances. Well, at least not to their face anyway.

This man decided to go through someone’s IG feed and leave their opinions in the comments. According to them, this brunette gal would look “so bad” blonde. We just don’t get why they didn’t go back and delete the original comment!

Alright, this is a weird one. Don’t get us wrong – we’ve had plenty of weird ones already. But this is a different brand of weird. An unsettling brand of weird. You see, this man has texted a woman to compare her with his deceased grandmother.

Worse still, he’s blatantly said “I’m into that.” Comparing someone with your grandmother could maybe, kind of, almost work in some contexts. But when you say “I’m into that,” it’s just not sending the right message.

Some of these messages make us think that people go on Tinder just to abuse others. It’s definitely not why the dating app was created, but it seems like pretty common behavior. Just look at this nasty message. It goes from friendly to cruel in a matter of seconds.

This woman only has to mention having a stomach to suddenly be called fat. We’re glad that they had the strength to respond with a sarcastic message of their own. Time to un-match we think.

This is definitely one of our favorite exchanges on this list. Sure, it’s extremely offensive. But, it also gives this woman something to dine out on for years. We would make that our Twitter bio for the rest of time.

Anyway, what we have here are break-up messages. Except, rather than just saying the relationship isn’t going to work, this man goes a step further. Amazingly, he tells this woman that she reminds him “more of a creature than a girl.” Wow!

If there was a subcategory for offensive messages that are also genuinely frightening, this would be in there. This message shows a man telling a woman that he’d like to make a lampshade out of her skin. It doesn’t matter what he says afterwards, even if it’s supposed to be some sort of pun. It is simply never OK to say you’d like to make someone into something.

We think that’s a pretty reasonable rule, wouldn’t you say?

You know, so far we haven’t seen many men criticizing people’s jobs. Maybe that’s because they were criticizing people’s bodies, manipulating them, or flying off the handle. Regardless, it’s time – here we have a man criticizing a woman’s job.

It seems that this charming man knows much more about this woman’s job than she does. Isn’t that convenient? According to him (an expert, probably), she’s simply a puppet. Yeah, we’d say that’s pretty darn offensive.

You would think that it’s reasonable to call a meet-up with someone you’re romantically interested in a date. That doesn’t mean it’s all candlelight dinners and rose petals – just that you’re into each other, and hanging out. That’s what this girl thought anyway.

But, she was sorely mistaken. As soon as this texter said the word date, her Prince Charming lost the plot. Then, he admitted he was just planning on using her before hanging with the boys. Run!

For those not in the know, “negging” is when you’re cruel to a woman to make her like you. It’s manipulative, it’s sexist, and it’s done by total losers. Ridiculously, so-called pick-up artists teach other guys how to do this.

The idea is to break a woman’s confidence so that she feels that she needs you. It’s truly the worst. This message is a prime example of negging. The guy initially insults the woman’s appearance. Then, he says that he’s joking and he’d be with her.

Can you believe how common these offensive accidental swiping messages are? This one is particularly bad though. Rather than just insult the woman he’s rejecting, this man decided to make her feel worthless too.

You see, he had to include the detail that he was wiping a crumb from his screen when he swiped her profile. It’s probably best to just not mention crumbs at all when chatting to someone. It’s certainly not the smoothest vibe we’ve ever seen.

Brace yourselves, because this message gave us whiplash. Here we have a man who seems to be cheating on his girlfriend. So, right away, we’re not getting the best impression. Then, he’s hitting up his pink-haired side chick to scold her because his girlfriend found her hair in his car.

Hopefully, after these messages, this guy won’t have any girlfriends left. Maybe pink hair girlfriend and the other girlfriend can strike up their own relationship and leave that loser behind.

There are a number of issues with Philip’s opening message here. Of course, there’s the clear and primary issue that he called a woman the wrong name. That’s a big old red mark. But there are other issues, and we’d like to give them some attention too.

We reckon it’s better to say that someone is pretty than to say they are “very pretty aesthetically.” Likewise, “Nice to meet you” is better than including the word “digitally.” Sorry, Phil — you’re not for us.

Oh dear, we’ve hit upon another racist message. Much like when men ask a woman to speak in her “native tongue,” calling someone “spicy” is not the way. You see, women are not food, they are people.

Plus, it’s generally better to steer clear of any weird, veiled reference to someone’s race. That’s just a tip, fellas. We recommend these offenders arm themselves with a dictionary. Or, better yet, a thesaurus. You know what? Maybe just a book in general.

Next up is a great display of fragile masculinity. A girl messages a guy to wish him luck on his exam. You see, they’ve been chatting about exams. So, it seems like the normal, friendly thing to do.

Except that it isn’t! Not according to this guy anyway. To him, wishing someone well on an exam is akin to being their wife. As far as he’s concerned, this chick is trying to march him down the aisle. Jeez!

We’ve had a couple of inappropriate messages on this list so far. But this one… what can we say about this one? Well, apparently Jake is into disobedient avocados. And what can anyone really say about that?

Look, Jake is free to do what he pleases in his own time. However, we would suggest that he not put his avocado fantasies onto unsuspecting women. There’s got to be a community out there for that.

It goes without saying that cheating is the worst. There’s really no point in being in a monogamous relationship if you’re going to just be with someone else. Just be open with people! It’s for the best!

Anyway, it’s unclear whether this guy even knew he was in a relationship, to begin with. Does that count as cheating? Just kidding, of course it does. This man not only cheated but also forgot about his original partner. Now, that’s offensive.

Here’s a message that nobody wants to receive. Seriously, can you think of one person who’d be happy to get this in their inbox? We thought not. This not-so-smooth talker decided to try and find somewhere to crash after getting out of prison. No big deal – everyone needs somewhere to stay.

However, it’s probably a good idea to make someone feel like they’re appreciated and respected. Pointing out that your parents won’t have you home is not the way to go about this task.

As with some other entries on this list, we sincerely hope these messages are a joke. As in, we hope this person is just a troll with a really immature sense of humor. That has to be better than the alternative.

This person has an extremely weird go-to line that is sure to repel anyone who receives it. Or, maybe this person is just a weird dude looking for another weird dude that appreciates their weirdness. Is that it?

Hey – we’re not finished with pick-up lines just yet! And this one manages to be lousy, creepy, and inappropriate all at once. This guy’s attempt at impressing a woman is to compare her body with a dump truck.

He does this in a roundabout way with an awful bit about a commercial driver’s license. Sadly, this man continues with his bad line beyond his first attempt. After comparing her to a truck, he says she can park it at his place. Do better!

Remember that guy who compared a woman to his recently deceased grandmother? Well, we thought that would be the weirdest comparison to a deceased person on this list. In fact, we even thought it might be the only comparison to a deceased person on this list.

But, we were wrong on all counts! This man compares someone to his recently deceased brother. He then helpfully adds that they were run over by a tractor. As they say, “Sucha sad day.”

As a rule, it’s good to try and not hurt someone’s feelings during a breakup. Obviously, that’s impossible to some extent. But, you know, try not to pour salt on the wound. Obviously, this man was never taught this rule.

He decided to tell someone that he never found her attractive. To make things so much worse, he tells her that he’d show people pictures of other girls instead of her. Has she ever recovered from this savage breakup?

Where do we begin with this one? There’s offensive stuff all over the place! There’s a dash of racism, a sprinkling of chauvinism, and a whole bucket of sleaze. This guy thinks it’s cute to say that he’d put a ring on someone’s finger while they were asleep.

Those are pretty dodgy implications, man. Then, he suggests this person can’t speak English. Isn’t that just the cherry on top? Thankfully, this lady isn’t having it. She’ll take her Northwestern education and be gone.

And to finish us off, we have one more controlling and creepy dude. This one has a thing for cougars, but not for communication. You see, if that’s your thing, that’s totally fine. But, you can’t just tell someone that you’ll make them their cougar. What on Earth does that mean?

Likewise, it’s not OK to give people a bunch of names if they’re not into it. We’re not surprised this woman was offended. Who wants to be spoken to like that by a stranger? See ya!